Do What Thou Wilt but Harm None

How Everyone’s Bad Behavior is Turning Me Into One Angry Woman

“Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” or “The only way for evil to triumph is for a good man (or woman) to do nothing.” When we sit back and do nothing, or don’t LEAD BY EXAMPLE, we cannot expect people to do differently.

I agree with the author of this blog, although she offers no solutions.  We need alternatives other than judgment, because everyone has bad days (and I understand that these examples provided are much more than just bad days).  We have a serious problem with lack of emotional empathy, bravery and personal responsibility in our society and unfortunately, those who do care enough to try to make a difference are often labeled negatively and told to mind their own business or “live and let live.”  I’m a believer in “do what thou wilt but harm none” but if “live” is causing harm to yourself or others, no one is just required to let you, IMO.

The timing of this piece is excellent as just yesterday I was driving to work behind a car that was going slow and then speeding up, etc.  I tried to go around them and the driver basically cut me off and went even slower.  The driver started glaring at me in the mirror and saying something.  The passenger then proceeded to turn around and start waving at me and giving me the finger.  I just shrugged, smiled and gave her the peace sign.  Then we got to a stop light and the lady on the passenger side got out of the car, came back to my car screaming threats and profanities at me, giving me the finger multiple times, etc.  Again, I just stared at her and felt horribly sorry for this sad woman.  The light turned green, they were holding up traffic, I just honked and waited for her to finish her horrible display of humanity and get back in her car.  As we turned, they sped out of the area very quickly and disappeared into the sad world they live in.  This sort of display and behavior is sad, stupid, ridiculous and COMPLETELY unnecessary.  Did her behavior solve anything or make anything better for anyone?  Absolutely not.

I’d had enough of sitting on the sidelines and letting this sort of shit be tolerated and accepted as “normal” or okay.  I called the non-emergency police number and reported them.  The officer that took my statement said that there was more than enough there to issue citations for disturbing the peace, etc. and make them appear in court but that it was up to me.  I went with just having him make contact with them and issue a warning.  I’d like to hope that given the chance to see that their behavior was horrible and that there are potential consequences, will be enough to hopefully let them take a look at who they are and how they act and improve on that.  The police officer called me back after making contact with them and said that they admitted that what they did was stupid and unnecessary and apologized for flipping out.  So, hopefully this will have some sort of positive impact, if even just in a tiny way.

So, you can call me a bitch or a snitch or a “do gooder” or whatever you want to throw at me for turning these people in.  But I would much rather be someone who is trying to do the right thing and improve my life, as well as those around me, than to be one to does nothing and thereby contributes to the problem.

Life is Short, Drink Good Beer

I’m a beer snob.  I admit it and I’m proud of it.  Why on earth would someone want to pay to drink horrible, watered-down, flavorless beer? Really the only thing that I’ve seen from my years of experience is that people continue to drink cheap SAB (shitty American Beers – i.e. Coors, Miller Lite, Bud, etc.) primarily to get wasted.  I don’t drink beer to get wasted.  I drink good beer to experience the taste, which is why I prefer good beer.  By “good beer” I mean beers where you can taste the different flavors and notes that the brewers have artistically and carefully put together just like a chef perfecting a recipe!  I love local craft beer and some mass produced beer that hasn’t fallen victim to the mindset of just using cheap ingredients and watered down stuff to increase profits.   I thought all beer was like SAB and tasted horrible until just a few years ago.  

There seems to be this huge misconception that good beer costs soooooo much more than SAB and that only those with large amounts of disposable income can enjoy good beer.  In fact, a few days ago I was asked what kinds of beer I like.  I named a few – Empyrean Brewingg Co, Leinenkugel’s, Sam Adams, Zipline, Dundee, Stone, etc., etc.  And the questioner then turned to my fiance and said “You’ve got a good paying job right?”  Wow.  Seriously?  Not only was the comment rude and implied that I’m some sort of high maintenance gal who doesn’t pay for her own damn beer (which is incorrect), but it is also based on the idea that good beer is ridiculously expense (wrong again!).

As with most things in life, you get what you pay for and that goes for beer too!  Now, my fiance and I watch for sales and stock up on good things when they are on sale, but some of the stuff we buy is only $10 for a 12 pack of bottles and that doesn’t seem crazy to me.  Sure some imports and things are going to be pricey, but again, it’s about priorities and the reason behind drinking in the first place that makes a difference in this equation.  I’m willing to admit that my fiance and I take our beer a little more seriously than most (we recently started subscribing to beer magazines and have been experimenting with home brewing), but once you come over to the dark side (the good beer side!), you’ll never go back and you’ll wonder how you managed to drink SAB beyond the age of 22.

The Today Show has a nice section on their website called Beer Geek, which is a term that I love and may now use for myself instead of beer snob.  And for those of you who still think that good beer is too expensive, here is a great article to steer you in the right direct…..Enjoy!!!

Think craft beer is too pricey? Try these budget brews