“Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” or “The only way for evil to triumph is for a good man (or woman) to do nothing.” When we sit back and do nothing, or don’t LEAD BY EXAMPLE, we cannot expect people to do differently.
I agree with the author of this blog, although she offers no solutions. We need alternatives other than judgment, because everyone has bad days (and I understand that these examples provided are much more than just bad days). We have a serious problem with lack of emotional empathy, bravery and personal responsibility in our society and unfortunately, those who do care enough to try to make a difference are often labeled negatively and told to mind their own business or “live and let live.” I’m a believer in “do what thou wilt but harm none” but if “live” is causing harm to yourself or others, no one is just required to let you, IMO.
The timing of this piece is excellent as just yesterday I was driving to work behind a car that was going slow and then speeding up, etc. I tried to go around them and the driver basically cut me off and went even slower. The driver started glaring at me in the mirror and saying something. The passenger then proceeded to turn around and start waving at me and giving me the finger. I just shrugged, smiled and gave her the peace sign. Then we got to a stop light and the lady on the passenger side got out of the car, came back to my car screaming threats and profanities at me, giving me the finger multiple times, etc. Again, I just stared at her and felt horribly sorry for this sad woman. The light turned green, they were holding up traffic, I just honked and waited for her to finish her horrible display of humanity and get back in her car. As we turned, they sped out of the area very quickly and disappeared into the sad world they live in. This sort of display and behavior is sad, stupid, ridiculous and COMPLETELY unnecessary. Did her behavior solve anything or make anything better for anyone? Absolutely not.
I’d had enough of sitting on the sidelines and letting this sort of shit be tolerated and accepted as “normal” or okay. I called the non-emergency police number and reported them. The officer that took my statement said that there was more than enough there to issue citations for disturbing the peace, etc. and make them appear in court but that it was up to me. I went with just having him make contact with them and issue a warning. I’d like to hope that given the chance to see that their behavior was horrible and that there are potential consequences, will be enough to hopefully let them take a look at who they are and how they act and improve on that. The police officer called me back after making contact with them and said that they admitted that what they did was stupid and unnecessary and apologized for flipping out. So, hopefully this will have some sort of positive impact, if even just in a tiny way.
So, you can call me a bitch or a snitch or a “do gooder” or whatever you want to throw at me for turning these people in. But I would much rather be someone who is trying to do the right thing and improve my life, as well as those around me, than to be one to does nothing and thereby contributes to the problem.