Do What Thou Wilt but Harm None

How Everyone’s Bad Behavior is Turning Me Into One Angry Woman

“Silence encourages the tormentor, never the tormented.” or “The only way for evil to triumph is for a good man (or woman) to do nothing.” When we sit back and do nothing, or don’t LEAD BY EXAMPLE, we cannot expect people to do differently.

I agree with the author of this blog, although she offers no solutions.  We need alternatives other than judgment, because everyone has bad days (and I understand that these examples provided are much more than just bad days).  We have a serious problem with lack of emotional empathy, bravery and personal responsibility in our society and unfortunately, those who do care enough to try to make a difference are often labeled negatively and told to mind their own business or “live and let live.”  I’m a believer in “do what thou wilt but harm none” but if “live” is causing harm to yourself or others, no one is just required to let you, IMO.

The timing of this piece is excellent as just yesterday I was driving to work behind a car that was going slow and then speeding up, etc.  I tried to go around them and the driver basically cut me off and went even slower.  The driver started glaring at me in the mirror and saying something.  The passenger then proceeded to turn around and start waving at me and giving me the finger.  I just shrugged, smiled and gave her the peace sign.  Then we got to a stop light and the lady on the passenger side got out of the car, came back to my car screaming threats and profanities at me, giving me the finger multiple times, etc.  Again, I just stared at her and felt horribly sorry for this sad woman.  The light turned green, they were holding up traffic, I just honked and waited for her to finish her horrible display of humanity and get back in her car.  As we turned, they sped out of the area very quickly and disappeared into the sad world they live in.  This sort of display and behavior is sad, stupid, ridiculous and COMPLETELY unnecessary.  Did her behavior solve anything or make anything better for anyone?  Absolutely not.

I’d had enough of sitting on the sidelines and letting this sort of shit be tolerated and accepted as “normal” or okay.  I called the non-emergency police number and reported them.  The officer that took my statement said that there was more than enough there to issue citations for disturbing the peace, etc. and make them appear in court but that it was up to me.  I went with just having him make contact with them and issue a warning.  I’d like to hope that given the chance to see that their behavior was horrible and that there are potential consequences, will be enough to hopefully let them take a look at who they are and how they act and improve on that.  The police officer called me back after making contact with them and said that they admitted that what they did was stupid and unnecessary and apologized for flipping out.  So, hopefully this will have some sort of positive impact, if even just in a tiny way.

So, you can call me a bitch or a snitch or a “do gooder” or whatever you want to throw at me for turning these people in.  But I would much rather be someone who is trying to do the right thing and improve my life, as well as those around me, than to be one to does nothing and thereby contributes to the problem.

Throwback Thursday Poetry – 7/17

It’s time again for another Throwback Thursday and I haven’t really done much posting since the last one, so I apologize for that.  Work is crazy busy (in a good way!), I decided to take an online class to get back in the swing of this school stuff and that just started as well….and there’s wedding planning in there too….so things have been a bit hectic.

Anyway, I’d like to go back, again, to 1998 and share two more poems from my angst-filled, teenage self…..enjoy!

“The Night the World Went Crazy”
There was a pounding in my head
A buzzing in my ear
A twitch in my leg
And a spinning in the air
I lie alone
in a dark room
swirling through my thoughts or
Perhaps I was sitting at my desk
the boy in the corner
fidgeting about
Customers coming and going
The time slips slowly by
Is it a dream within a dream
Or a life within a life
The pain in my head
seems like the construction outside
I lie alone
shifting, turning, tossing
On the night the world went crazy
Or was it only me?

“Pale Faces”
Privileged –
You were born that way
You know nothing else
You believe in America
The government you trust
The system will always protect you
In the eyes and laws of this nation
You will always rein supreme
When you sleep
You see the “American Dream”
America the beautiful –
That concept died on the boat
So many souls lost
Only the “right” ones survived
Where sheets are not only for sleeping
and guns more important than food
The blood and hate that built the cities
and flooded the banks
In the end,
will destroy you, too

A Dreamer – My Introduction

I’ve been called many things in my life…..some positive, others definitely not.  I’ve been called everything from naïve, a dreamer, an idealist to snarky, stuck-up and a bitch for my opinions, beliefs, standards, morals, hopes and thoughts on society, politics and the world.  I may be all of these things.

I’m a believer of science, that which can be researched and proven.  I’m a believer of evolution of the mind and free-thinking.

I’m a child of the 80’s and a child of small-town Nebraska.  I have a love of history and learning about the lives and mistakes of the past to try to learn and grow from them, to move forward and become better, to learn enough to not repeat those travesties from before.  I have an everlasting love of music, art, culture, books, writings, lyrics, etc.  I’ve been told numerous times that I have an “old soul” or that I should have grown up in the 60’s….I take these as compliments.

I have a strong desire to help others.  I do believe that we are all related and connected and that we are, as a society and more, only as strong as our weakest link.  The saying “this should never happen to anyone, and that’s why I care” is pretty accurate in my way of thinking about a lot that goes on in our world today.  I want to believe in humanity, but I am a skeptic.

I am a firm believer in equality.  I want everyone, regardless of race, age, sex, social status, etc., etc., to have the same opportunity for success.  Yet, I’m smart enough to know that even if we are all given the same opportunities, there will always be those who repeatedly make bad decisions, who choose “the easy way”, who decide that putting in some effort and hard work to become a better person, improve their life/situation and contribute to society in a positive way just isn’t worth it and that mediocrity or worse is just fine with them.  I also know that there will always be those who just believe that they are better or deserve more or feel that they are entitled to certain things in live – that the world owes them something.  And these are ways of life and thinking that I will never understand.

I believe deeply in the need for and importance of education, not just in school but in life.  There is nothing better that one can do for themselves and their society but to continue to learn, to grow, to each out new things, better ways, etc. for their entire lives.  This learning starts in infancy and I feel that the worst thing one can do as a parent is to cheat children out of learning, developing and giving them every single too and assistance possible to become the best they can be.  We should never set our children up for failure or hinder them by being lazy parents.

Yes, I have many beliefs and opinions and have only scratched the surface here.  My most defining belief/ideal is that I truly want for us to be better.  I want to be better.  I want our society, country and world to be better.  I want us to treat each other better, learn from one another and our differences.  I stand for a lot of things and I may be just a dreamer…but there’s nothing else I’d rather be.